Quick ... the song for Best Original Song Oscar in 1959?
If you know this piece of the questionnaires, congratulations! It 'was the song high hopes for the movie, Hole in the Head (not the most famous film, I confess). The song has always been poplar Frank Sinatra recorded in 1961.
In the tumult of today, the lyrics seem banal
The next time you meet with your chin on the ground
There is much to learn, it seems - all year round.
Exactly whatdoes ant bit 'old
Do you think it is to plant rubber trees around?
Everyone knows an ant can move in a rubber plantation,
But I had great hopes he had high hopes ...
Ant and probably can not planting rubber trees, which, in itself, but when you keep promising enough, it increases the probability of success is exciting because it has a place with an attitude of hope to strike. And there is the hope of elasticity. Without it, desperate to curb and stop effective solutions for aStatus quo.
Great expectations can seem like a myth, if you see something like today, all the suffering, defragmentation, shame and fear, frankly, fear and paranoia. However, data on brain research in the hope people are the solutions to the problems that accumulate cash. It is also very clear that we focus on what grows. And vice versa, which we attribute to our attention, is reduced to bankruptcy. If we concentrate our hope, our hope is growing. If we feel overwhelmed by despair ... Then, of course,wash our hope.
We'll see our son or forces are overwhelmed by the lack of motivation? If you do not pay attention to their strengths, to grow and is certainly not the "problem" certainly increases the motivation. We are thinking our daughter to complete their review or comment any bad mood? This is the way to grow in a bad mood. The human brain is a strange device that seems random. No, acts in a refined set of principles. And one ofthe important thing is that most of the central tenets of our attention, creates much of the reality we know. This is not New Age hocus-pocus, despite new managers are entitled to this fascinating aspect of the system functioning of our brain. There has been much academic research on the topic. In fact, Appreciative Inquiry, one of the cornerstones of the PCI-training, process methodology, the results of this search. Appreciate it has been studiedThe powerful work, because we need to consider strategies to the evolution of human brain.
In fact, the hope is to grow, if we are attentive to developments with optimism. Little hope there are more things to say and the conversation is more hope. With more hope than we have before us, that we have on others and our world, more often and more quickly. Before we knew it, the negative aspects of lack of care and reduces the positive effects have increased, almost like magic!Sure, we have become more hope ... the spiral continues ... more good things.
Our world needs many of us, our attention to hope, which leads to relocate and improve their lives. And I think that touches us deeply paternity. How can we stay focused on the hope that the work on positive things in our daily lives with our children?
Here are five considerations for parents of hope in difficult times.
In his research, CR Snyder (The psychologyThe hope was Free Press, 1994), as follows:
First, parents who want to know how to get what they want. They are committed and enjoy, resourceful and flexible, especially in difficult times. Provide a clear vision of what we find to our children and our families. Water supply, which gives spiritual strength and endurance, with a challenge, long enough for an effective solution to sweat. If we leave, we can be suredefeated. His self-care goes a long way to help determine if the visit is difficult. Make sure you give the characters if you want. Instead, think about what you are giving your children and to focus on its strengths and improve their internal resistance.
Two parents who want to listen. Listening and responding to the strengths of our children increased our flexibility to change course when our parents is not always the strategyThe results we seek. Often, we can teach our children that when we follow our instincts and the answer to this question our integrity, which is more life, that this involves? Look at our children from this perspective, you may notice a sudden a lot of things we do for them is a sense of accomplishment, so they value their talents for the moment, and I am waiting for your future hope.
Three children observe their parents hope to succeed.It seems that parents are hoping to prove his independence from the feeling of success. This definition of success is not the definition that seems to be the care of our world, big house, big car, a lot of money, etc., on the contrary, success is measured, for example, "high self-esteem and image positive about themselves. "It 'strikes children of many parents hope to grow with high levels of positive self-esteem, happy and confident children with high self-esteem!
Four parents who want a good comfort. WhenWorrying or things really difficult, the parents hope and comfort of children to act favorably in situations of high stress. As a mental property of the parents who have no hope. Do not let the negative energy capacity to be present and influence their children. They are able to defeat the negativity so that children do not translate as: "No time for me." Parents accused of being afraid, are not sensitive to the emotional needs of children.Parents who wish to inspire trust and transparency in the process of communication between parents and children to keep the doors open, even during puberty!
Fifth parents hope to support children's autonomy and competition. This does not mean that something is happening. This does not mean focusing on what the child is doing well every day, in time, the parent company is building a strong sense of his childhood. So the belief that the child is in his talent and skills. In the words of one of the childrenSnyder's research: "The biggest thing I remember is that my parents taught me to do things for me. But I always knew they were there for me when I'm in a dip ... If I miss something should talk to me and me alone. "
It seems that the baseline for the hope of becoming a parent is to help us with our best self, even in difficult times and to exploit our children.
Then, anything is possible ... for us, our children ... ourWorld.
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